My Choice to Stay Home

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Ever since I was very young, maybe 12 or 13, I knew I wanted to be a mom. I had so many career goals, they changed almost as much as you change underwear, but I knew, no matter what, come the day a child entered our lives, that would be my main focus. Please also know I am not putting down moms that work, I have a lot of respect for moms that can juggle a job and be amazing mothers, I just realized very quick I couldn’t do both.

I did work part time for awhile after Hoke was born but it was not for me, I longed to be home. I saw this the other day and thought “wow, this is SO true!” Even as a mom, who happens to stay home, I do run a small business and run our household and so many times throughtout the day I hear myself saying to Hoke “Ok, give mama a second to do……” and it’s something that is important to me and to what I am working on when it all comes down to the fact that he is the most important work! And he is work!! Don’t let anyone fool you that parenting is a piece of cake, well it can be, in your face and all over the floor. Parenting is HARD work, very hard! And being a stay at home mom is hard because it’s all day every day never ending work! Hoke is very active and if you turn your head for once second he is poll dancing on the floor lamp, washing the baby monitor in the dog bowl or doing gymnastics off the sofa. But I have to remind myself often that these days are fleeting and there will come a time when I won’t have to watch his every move and he won’t need me as much.

Hoke has recently started eating with a fork and spoon completely on his own. I was talking with my mama about this the other day and she said to me “every day they need you less and less” I realized how true that is and to make every thing we do together count as much as possible because one day it will be the last time and we will long for it!

It is work, no way around it, work with no pay too I might add! But oh the joy and satisfaction that comes out of it is beyond any job and any amount of pay I could dream of! Also, let me say, you still need time to yourself, it isn’t all about your child just like your job isn’t your whole life, but it is a main focus. Hoke is by far the most demanding, honest, predictable boss I have ever had…..he gives the best hugs out of all of them too!


8 thoughts on “My Choice to Stay Home

  1. I never really knew what I wanted to do, but I always hoped to stay home with my children. So excited for this opportunity, but I have never worked harder than this! I enjoy reading your posts, thank you. 😉


  2. I completely agree with you! I’m a SAHM, and it’s incredibly challenging (my kids are 15 months apart). But my love and adoration for them helps me get through the most challenging days. I love what your mom said about them needing you less and less. It’s such a reminder to try to appreciate this time because we’ll be missing these crazy, yoga-pant-wearing, no-time-for-yourself days!


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